03.31.05

Overcoming fears

Posted in at 9:45 am by queent

When you have kids you expect to make some life changes all around. I’m amused at my having had to overcome some fears in order to teach the boy to not be afraid of some things. I don’t want him to fear things for no reason. He has this fear of bug, especially spiders. It’s funny as hell to me that I have a boy that is scared of bugs. I thought it was in boy’s DNA to like bugs…lol Anyway, I am not scared of little bugs, but those big nasty mutant cock roach looking water bugs frighten me. They are just icky and huge and yuck(ya’ll know I’m girlie, dont act surprised…lol) However, when they creep into the house and the boy sees them he FREAKS! You would think the thing was crawling on him the way he nuts up…lol So I had to put my fear aside so I could kill them and get them out the house…which is a funny process in itself…lol I didnt realize he is afriad of thunderstorms either until recently. It’s been raining a bit the past few days and the boy just refuses to go to sleep, or like this morning will hover over me in my sleep because it’s lightning outside. I dislike lightning more than am afraid of it, but it is one of those silly things that have non basis. It’s a “just because thing”. So knowing this about myself I ask him what it is about the lightning that scares him and I get the typical 5 year old answer “Because it scares me” So I have to rephrase and ask “What do you think the lighning is going to do to you”…and there is no reply to that. So I’m able to take and twist that to show him there is nothing to be afriad of. It seems to be slowly working, at least in relation to the bug fear.

I will admit that some fears are justified based on experiences but I am trying to prevent him from having random fears just because he hears someone else say something is scary. Mama did this to us, knowingly when we were little. She is afraid of under railroad track overpasses when trains are passing by. And as I got older I began to fear that myself too. Dad was very irritaed to find that because he knew it came from us witnessing Mama freak out. So I don’t want to do this to the boy, which is why I found a way to at least hide my fear or strong dislike of bugs from him to show him that they aren’t anything to be afraid of. Because in reality, I recognize myself that they aren’t really anything to fear…they are just gross..lol

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