10.30.05
Posted in , at 8:59 am by queent
Bloghopping landed me at The”>http://thekajuanashow.blogsome.com/2005/10/25/the-will-to-my-grace/”>The KajauanaShow this morning. This particular post got my attention and of course I can’t help but spill my two cents on this issue.
So is homosexuality something you are born with or a development of life experiences? My answer is: both. I think it varies for some people. I know people who say they knew at such and such and age that they were attracted to the opposite sex. Then others have had some type of “encounter” and never looked back. Is one lying versus the other? Who the hell am I to say? I believe in both scenarios.
Here’s my thing: labels. Hate them. They are stupid and pointless and are the creation of a closed minded individual. “If a person is attracted to the same sex then they are gay.” “If a person has sex with the same they are gay.” “If they are attracted but don’t act on it, they are still gay.” Hold up, stop, wait a damn minute. Why are people so insistent on putting a definition on someone’s sexuality? Are you telling me that I have to be gay because I am attracted to men and women? Well what if I only sleep with one of them. Hell what if I sleep with both of them. What does that make me, gay? Straight?Bisexual? Trisexual? Come on, stop that!
How about this? How about people stop worrying about frivolous things that don’t relate to their own life and take car of themselves and their families. Last time I checked homosexuality is not contagious. Being around someone of an opposing sexuality will not “turn you gay”; just like being around someone of the opposte race or gender will not turn you either. You are who you are and they are who they are. Being around any other person that is different from you is an enlightening experience. They have the same morals, goals, joys, and pains as the rest of the heterosexual world. And if it isn’t then you are doing yourself an injustice. Take them out of the box you have been trying to fit them nice and neatly into and see what you can learn from them.
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10.28.05
Posted in at 8:59 am by queent
It’s Friday and I am super crunk. Got the fullest weekend in the world ahead of me and looking forward to every mintue of it. Now check back on Monday so I can tell you how sleepy and grumpy I am…lol
In the meantime, someone sent me this email and although I’m sure it’s been around and around, it’s funny to me everytime I read it; especially since I can relate to both having it happen to me AND doing some of it now.
Happy Friday ya’ll!
OLD SCHOOL BLACK MAMAS
There used to be a time when black children were the best behaved
children in the world, now look at them. Time out my foot!
1. Have you ever been called downstairs from upstairs or the back of
the house, or from the front of the house to get the remote, change
the
channel, or fix her a glass of ice water?
2. Have you ever been hit with an extension cord, a switch, or the
nearest shoe?
3. Have you ever had to pick your own switch off the tree and she
sent
you back because the one you picked was too little?
4. Have you ever been burned on your ear with a straightening comb?
5. Have you ever been hit in the head or knuckles with a comb or
hair
brush?
6. Have you ever been told to “Shut Up or I’ll give you something to
cry about while she beats you with a belt - pronouncing every
syllable—”Did-n’t—I—tell—-you—not—to-do —!— That—no
—more?!”
7. Your ponytails or plaits were so tight, you got those little
bumps
around you scalp.
8. The white people in the school office (principal, secretary, etc.)
were afraid of her.
9. You were scared to go home when you had a bad report card.
10. Alcohol, peroxide, cocoa butter, and Vaseline were the main items
in the bathroom cabinet.
11. You were never “on punishment” - just got whooping right out of
the
shower.
12. Have you ever been pinched for going to sleep in church?
13. She made you participate in every church activity (choir, Jr. Usher
Board, Easter play, Christmas play, etc.)
14. Has she ever come inside and picked you up from school dance in
hair rollers and her gown or pajamas on under her coat?
15. When you ask her for something, her response is . . . “You got a
job?”
16. Have you ever been beaten for something your brother or sister did
just because you were around?
17. She vacuums everyday just so the carpet can have lines in it.
18. Have you ever been told to turn off the TV, get off the phone, or
sit down and be quiet when it’s storming outside because the Lord was
doing his work?
19. Friends, family and friends of the family try to keep you out of
trouble because they know your mother and how she is.
20. You were afraid to call the child abuse hotline.
21. She has to talk to God…”Lord, please don’t let me hurt this
child!!”
before she gives you a whipping.
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10.19.05
Posted in , , at 8:57 am by queent
I wanna thank the law for what is known as the Abandonment Warrent!
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10.17.05
Posted in at 8:51 am by queent
It could just be my imagination, but I swear it seems like every three months or so I get a call or email or text or IM from some guy I have dated at some point who wants to explain to me how they have reevaluated and reinvented themselves and want to show me how they have “changed”. I don’t really get it. Do guys run down their contacts and decide to just get back in touch and see what jumps off? It’s pretty amusing actaully…especially when the same one does it every few months or so.
With me there’s not much going back. I won’t say never, but you have to really, really be “in the door” to have any opportunity at coming back for a second go round. And if you are looking for a third, you may as well stop wasting your time. Do guys really think we are that needy? Or is it that some of us are and make it harder for those who aren’t?
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